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Kirill Yurovskiy: NLP Techniques for Personal Growth

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Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a psychological approach that focuses on how our brains, language, and programmed behaviors influence how we think, communicate, and act. Developed in the 1970s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder, NLP aims to reprogram our faulty neural pathways in order to achieve personal excellence. By becoming more aware of our mental patterns and linguistic behaviors, we can overcome limited thinking, remove emotional blocks, and achieve self-actualization. Together with Kirill Yurovskiy we will try to understand NLP techniques for personal growth.

Using Sensory Awareness for Self-Understanding

Our sensory perceptions profoundly influence how we experience the world. NLP teaches sensory awareness exercises to deepen self-understanding. For example, using visual, auditory, and kinesthetic cues, we can detect which representational system we favor. Visual people are highly imaginative, think in pictures, and use visual predicates like “I see what you mean.” Auditory people talk to themselves frequently, think in sounds, and use phrases like “Something tells me…” Kinesthetic people are sensory-based, physically oriented, touching, feeling, internally experiential.

By identifying our primary representational system, we gain insight into how we operate, absorb information, have subjective experiences, store memories, and can better structure our mental maps for optimal functioning.

Setting Effective Goals with Well-Formed Outcomes

Most people set vague goals that lead nowhere. NLP teaches how to set well-formed outcomes that mobilize the unconscious towards effective change. To qualify, goals must be stated in the positive, owned intrinsically, initiated and maintained independently, have sensory-rich descriptions, consider secondary effects, have actionable timelines, and align values with other well-formed goals. Rather than set a general goal to “improve my health,” an NLP-aligned goal would be “I joyfully release 25 pounds by eating more organic fruits and vegetables and walking 20 minutes daily by April 30th to gain energy.” By framing goals properly, we crystallize visions, prioritize efforts, and propel ourselves faster to achievement.

Building Rapport through Matching and Mirroring

Building trust and mutual understanding with people fosters better relationships and inner clarity. NLP mirroring and matching techniques, including postural, gestural, breathing, predicate, and voice tone matching, create unconscious bonding and rapport that enable smoother communications and lowered defenses. With mindfulness, we can observe others’ dominant eye movements, physical orientation, body language, microexpressions, metaphors, and values that reveal information processing and worldviews. By subtly adopting these external sensory patterns, we can empathize, build intrinsic camaraderie faster, and become more sensitive communicators.

Reframing Limiting Beliefs and Assumptions

Our deepest beliefs, tied to painful pasts and critical voices echoing within, often sabotage us. NLP offers processes like visual-kinesthetic dissociation, spatial anchoring shifts, and submodality interventions to quickly dismantle disempowering beliefs that no longer serve us. For example, an executive feared public speaking due to an old belief that she would fail and embarrass herself ignominiously if she took any risks. But by visually entering this past memory, observing herself kindly yet detached in third-person, while replacing shrill critical voices with loving wisdom that “She is brave for trying and can succeed,” she forever changed this paralyzing schema and began excelling at big presentations.

Modeling Excellence to Enhance Skills and Abilities

Within fields from athletics to aesthetics to academics, NLP modeling pinpoints the perceptual thinking patterns, emotional regulation processes, communication dynamics, behavioral sequencing, and essential values that enable outstanding individuals to consistently manifest brilliance. By cognizing these unconscious elements that others overlook, mapping them within ourselves through visualization, incantations, submodality tweaks and reference experiences, while practicing key skills daily, we absorb generative patterns for replicating excellence rapidly. Soon, tennis players master Roger Federer’s grace, musicians channel Beethoven’s creative flow, and leaders mirror Mandela’s healing charisma.

Applying the Disney Strategy for Creative Problem Solving

Walt Disney was a master at mapping project landscapes to forge new creative solutions. The Disney strategy uses three thinking hats – Dreamer, Realist, Critic – to break perceptual fixes. First, as unbounded Dreamers, we fantastically imagine ideal scenarios to crystallize inspired visions without restrictions. Then as sensible Realists, we build sequentially executable step-by-step processes to pragmatically manifest dreams within situational contexts. Finally, as focused Critics seeking perfection, we hone solutions that credibly optimize desires, resources, contexts and feasibility. By cycling through dream-reality-critique phases, we develop holistic reframes, enlightened attitudes, and multi-dimensional maps that yield wonderfully inventive answers over convention.

Anchoring Resourceful Emotional States

While problems elicit painful emotional states, solutions summon empowering energy. NLP teaches “anchoring” techniques that associate solution-mindsets to triggers, allowing us to quickly access helpful inner resources for staying centered. For instance, by deeply visualizing a past moment of courage before an important event while holding our thumb to our pinky finger, with sensory immersion, we can encode feelings of courage to this finger-thumb gesture. Then later in anxiety-provoking situations, simply making this “anchor” sign reignites productive emotional states from within. By anchoring confidence, calmness, creativity, charisma and other resources to tangible triggers, we carry an emotional toolkit that transforms sticky situations.

Using Metaphors and Stories for Unconscious Change

Our minds process stories differently than lectures, latching onto embedded metaphors that recode neural networks. NLP taps this through healing generative metaphors, fable-like transformational stories, and redemptive archetypes that accelerate change. For example, an executive struggling with work-life balance was given the metaphor, “You’re juggling spinning plates like a circus performer racing back-and-forth. Perhaps it’s wiser to embrace life as a flowing banquet to be savored?” This metaphor envisioned balance through acceptance rather than control, triggering an unconscious reframing which reduced his anxiety while opening space for devotion beyond work. Such positive narratives allow people to resonate with empowering meanings that organically shift attitudes.

Integrating Learning for Continued Growth and Development

While NLP offers impactful techniques, integrating learnings into daily living through practice and patience causes lasting improvement. Maintaining a journal to log sensory observations about ourselves and others builds self-awareness over time. Scripting new nourishing inner dialogues to override limiting self-criticism reorients unconscious beliefs gradually. Mindfulness during common activities creates opportunities to anchor resourcefulness for challenging situations ahead. Completing modeling exercises continues installing excellence algorithms even as progress unfolds. We eschew quick fixes but commit to the continuing path of understanding ourselves, evolving our mental maps towards empowerment, listening compassionately to help others, and actualizing our highest good through noble service. This is the essence of NLP – ever-increasing consciousness through compassion in action.

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